Chapter Spotlight: South Carolina Chapter
In this edition, we spotlight the South Carolina Chapter, led by President Dexter W.J. Davis. Under Dexter’s leadership, the chapter has been instrumental in promoting mental health awareness and providing resources to former players. Their initiatives include community outreach programs, support groups, and partnerships with local mental health organizations.
Dexter’s dedication to mental health advocacy exemplifies the NFL Alumni Health mission and serves as an inspiration to all.
A Personal Commitment to Mental Health Advocacy
Dexter’s journey with mental health is deeply personal and has profoundly shaped his life. After retiring from football, he found himself struggling with challenges that many former players face—forgetfulness, fatigue, and a lack of energy. “I started noticing things that weren’t quite right,” Dexter recalls. “At first, I thought it was just part of the adjustment to life after football, but over time, I realized it was something more serious. I wasn’t handling things the way I used to.” This moment of self-awareness acted as a warning sign, and it became clear that he couldn’t handle it alone any longer.
“In the locker room, we called each other ‘battle buddies,'” Dexter explains. This term, coined by Dan Quinn during his time as head coach of the Atlanta Falcons, was plastered all over the locker room to emphasize the importance of having each other’s backs—both on and off the field. Dexter, who served as the team’s Chaplain at the time, saw firsthand how the phrase united the players. He realized that just as he had leaned on his “battle buddies” during his NFL career, he needed to adopt that same mentality in facing his own mental health challenges. Recognizing the need for help, he reached out for support, understanding that mental health is not something to face alone.
Dexter turned to counseling through NFLPA benefits, which provided him with the private support he needed. This helped not only him but also his marriage and family to understand the root of the issues he was facing. This period coincided with the onset of the pandemic, and Dexter admits he felt as though he was spiraling. “I needed help to figure things out with my spouse and family,” he says.
Compounding this emotional turmoil was the discovery of his biological father. Dexter, who was adopted, learned about his father just a few years ago. His father had throat cancer, and this revelation added an emotional layer to the challenges Dexter was already facing. “It’s about understanding who you are—a reality many, especially in black communities, face,” Dexter explains. As a father of four and a recent grandfather, coming to terms with this new piece of his identity brought Dexter some relief and helped him gain a deeper understanding of himself.
For much of his life, Dexter embraced the bravado of always being in control—the strong, reliable figure for his wife and kids. But this unintentional pressure to hold everything together led to emotional stress and moments of lashing out. Over time, Dexter learned that true strength came from leaning on others and recognizing his own limits. Now, he relies on a supportive network and uses practical tools to help him stay organized. “Having an understanding of what I can and can’t do has been key,” Dexter shares. This newfound awareness has been a vital part of his ongoing journey, helping him better understand himself and show up as his best self for his family.
Dexter’s willingness to share his personal journey is a crucial piece of NFL Alumni Health’s mission to promote education and raise awareness of critical health topics, especially mental health, within the NFL Alumni community. By speaking openly about his struggles, Dexter is helping break down the stigma surrounding mental health and encouraging others to seek help before things reach a crisis point. His openness mirrors the core values of NFL Alumni Health—Caring for Our Own, and ultimately, for the entire community.
Mental Health in the United States: A Snapshot
Source: NAMI
Hidden Wounds: A Partnership for Mental Health Support
Dexter’s commitment to supporting former NFL players goes beyond his personal journey. Under his leadership, the South Carolina NFL Alumni Chapter has formed a meaningful partnership with Hidden Wounds, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting military veterans’ mental health. This collaboration uniquely addresses the mental health challenges faced by both NFL alumni and veterans, creating a safe space for these communities to heal. As Dexter notes, “NFL players, like military veterans, are often put on a pedestal. When their careers end, they face deep mental, physical, and emotional wounds. These communities need a safe place to process their challenges.”
One notable Merging Vets & Players (MVP) conversation that truly underscores this mission was with Dexter and retired disabled veteran Marcus Wiggins. Marcus shared that his struggles with empathy for his wife and two daughters stemmed from his difficult upbringing. His father, who never played catch, never encouraged him, and never attended his high school games, created a “father wound” that still lingered. Marcus recalled how, despite fearing his father, he was still made to drive tractors and pickup trucks at the age of 12. This conversation highlighted the emotional scars that can persist long after one’s playing days are over.
Hidden Wounds, led by Executive Director Lance Newman, a 22-year Marine Corps veteran, has been supporting these individuals for over a decade. The organization is building 12 new homes for local veterans, offering both tangible support and a place for healing. Newman explains, “Many former players and veterans are left in the dark after their careers. This partnership aims to change that.”
The shared vision of Dexter and Lance has led to more than just office space. The two organizations are combining resources, staff, and expertise to provide a lasting impact, creating a culture where veterans and alumni feel safe to seek help before a crisis point is reached.
Serving the Local Community of Sumter, SC
In Sumter, SC, a city with deep connections to both the military and NFL alumni, this partnership goes beyond raising awareness. It’s about providing real, tangible support for those who have given so much. The town proudly embraces a spirit of “Uncommon Patriotism,” a phrase that reflects the community’s deep respect for service and sacrifice. Dexter ensures that both veterans and former players have access to resources, counseling, and a network of support.
MVP Film: Bridging the Gap Between Veterans and NFL Alumni
The two organizations also collaborated on a special screening of MVP, a film that highlights the connection between NFL alumni and veterans. Executive produced by Sylvester Stallone and directed by Nate Boyer, a former NFL player and Green Beret, the film sparked important conversations about the struggles both groups face when transitioning into civilian life after high-performance careers.
The screening, which took place at the Sumter Opera House, was made possible thanks to the generous support of retired 4-star General T. Michael Moseley. Sumter, home to Shaw Air Force Base, is a community that has always supported those who serve, and this event reflected that commitment.
Watch the MVP trailer HERE
Dexter believes the film’s message is crucial for fostering a deeper understanding of the mental health challenges shared by both NFL alumni and veterans. “The psychological toll of transition can be just as hard as the physical injuries,” he says.
Moving Forward: Building a Lasting Legacy of Support
Dexter’s advocacy for mental health doesn’t stop at Mental Health Awareness Month. His long-term vision is working with NFL Alumni Health to create a culture of continuous support for NFL alumni, where mental health is prioritized year-round. “Mental health awareness shouldn’t be just a once-a-year conversation,” Dexter stresses. “We need to integrate it into our everyday lives and ensure players and their families have access to the support they need—whenever they need it.”
Lance Newman adds, “Mental health is a journey, not a destination. We need to be proactive in providing support and creating a culture where seeking help is normal.”
Take the Next Step: Share Your Story and Get Support
If you’re a former player who has faced mental health challenges, you are not alone. Your story matters and sharing it can be the first step in healing, not only for yourself but for others in the NFL Alumni community who may be silently struggling.
Reach out to the NFL Alumni Health team or your local chapter to learn more about the resources available to you. By connecting with others who understand your experience, you’re helping to break the stigma around mental health and paving the way for future generations of players to seek help without hesitation.
If you’re ready to take that first step, here’s how you can begin:
- Share Your Story & Advocate for Change: Your experiences can inspire others. By opening up, you become part of a movement that encourages other former players to do the same. If you’re unsure where to start, reach out to a trusted peer or NFL Alumni Chapter representative for guidance. Additionally, if you’re interested in speaking out and raising awareness, NFL Alumni Health is actively seeking former players to participate in public speaking engagements on health initiatives, including mental health. Contact the NFLAH team by sending an email GetInvolved@NFLAlumniHealth.org, to explore opportunities to share your story and advocate for change through public speaking.
- Access Resources: Take advantage of the counseling services, mental health benefits, and support networks available through the NFLPA and NFL Alumni. These services are here to ensure your well-being, both now and in the future.
- Connect with Fellow Alumni: Reach out to others who have walked a similar path. Whether it’s through informal networks or your local NFL Alumni chapter, connecting with peers who understand your struggles can be the key to unlocking the support you need.
- Be Proactive: Mental health is a journey, not a destination. It’s never too early to act. By taking small steps today, you can ensure a brighter, healthier future for yourself and your family.
Together, we can create a community of support where mental health is prioritized, and no one faces their challenges alone. Reach out today, share your story, and take control of your mental health journey. It’s time to break the silence and find the support you deserve.
